I’ve counseled a lot of women over the years and fellas, some of you are making all of us look extremely bad!  There are several man-laws being broken daily and it would be wrong for me not to reiterate some of our rules of engagement.  I really hate to even talk about these types of things, but it’s too many good brothers getting a bad wrap because of a few fella’s foolishness.  The truth is, when you think you’re getting away with something, more than likely, you’re not.  If you’re going to do wrong, realize that there’s a high probability of you getting caught.

I know some of you are thinking you’re too slick, smooth, smart and sophisticated, but trust me, everything you’ve thought of, women are one step ahead of you.

Your woman is smarter and sneakier
than you could ever imagine! 

I can’t tell you how many countless women tell me about some of the dumb stunts some of you have pulled.  For instance, you think she doesn’t know how often you contact your baby’s mama, where you really were Friday night, how much money is in your personal account, the porn stash in the garage or that your ex girlfriend Michelle’s phone number is really saved as Mike in your cell phone! (sigh)

So how do I know these women are telling the truth?  Here’s the thing, I in no way endorse or condone cheating.  Personally, I think you’re immature and weak for even going that route, but I do understand how things happen when your insecurities, egos and greediness still control you.  I’ve been there before and that’s why I’m somewhat empathetic to your predicaments.

What you need to understand is that women innately have heightened levels of intuition.  They naturally pay more attention to details and their immediate surroundings.  Most of us on the other hand, are more visual which means we fall victim to the philosophy of, “Out of sight, out of mind.”  The dichotomy of this daily default is what leaves us defenseless against the mechanisms of make-shift manipulations women utilize to trick, trap and trial their guys into guilty confessions.

Women observe everything, mark their territories and give you the opportunity to make a choice. 

Still in Denial? Here’s a few Examples:

  • You thought your side piece’s glittery lip gloss looked sexy and tasted good huh?  Try getting all the glitter off after she kisses you.  There’s always two little specs you missed somewhere and guess who notices it when you get home?
  • What about the hair buried in your bathroom trashcan that’s 5 inches too long and not her color?
  • The numerous text messages she called the cellular company to get a list of?
  • The GPS tracker she put under your car or your phone!
  • The perfume smell in your shirt.
  • The receipt for condoms she found in your pocket.
  • Your unwillingness to have sex on Saturday, the private detective she hired, the hidden camera in your house, longer hours at work and so on!

Simply put, women take cues, leave clues and wait for news that leads to your downfall.

Ebonically speaking, “They waitin’ on you to play yourself!”

Fellas, you should know by now that there’s no such thing as secrets anymore; technology ruined it.  Furthermore, you wouldn’t have these problems if you didn’t give in or succumb to the insecurity, ego and greediness which causes you to cheat in the first place.
Here’s 4 Ways to Being a REAL Man:

  1. Be Honest. Stop lying to your woman and lying to yourself about what you want.
  2. Be Intentional. Do what it takes to match your intentions with your integrity.
  3. Be Accountable for your actions. Own your decisions.
  4. Be Mature. C’mon… you’ve had more than your fair share of Women. It’s time to grow up and be responsible for catering to One!

This isn’t rocket science.  I believe there’s more to life than satisfying your selfish urge for immediate gratification.  It’s time for your actions and convey the Man who God purposed you to be.  I could tell you to keep up the good work because my client list stays full of women complaining about your foolishness, but that just wouldn’t be me.  Instead I’ll tell you to grow up, get your grown man on and stop making the rest of us good brothers look bad because trust me, the chances of you getting caught are extremely high!  Why?  Because you have no idea how smart your woman really is!

“Keep the faith, keep making it happen and remember to always Stay Out of Your Own Way!



Jack A. Daniels, also known as The King of Breakthroughs is a psychotherapist, media personality, award-winning speaker and 5 time best-selling author of books such as, “I Need a Wife…Where are the REAL Women?” and “Stay Out of Your Own Way.” He's one of the leading authorities for overcoming fears and getting people unstuck in love, relationships, business or life. Jack is a Master Storytelling Expert who helps beginning & established Speakers find their personal story and get PAID to speak. Jack has been featured on BBC, Fox News, Bravo, BET, CBS, NBC, ABC, WEtv, Cosmopolitan, Esquire, DateDaily and you can watch him every week on the FYI channel as the host of #BlackLove!

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